Back to Lessons on Loving Others
Look Back
- What are you thankful for? What is causing you stress?
- Was this a good or bad week in obeying God? Why?
- Was this a good or bad week in obeying God? Why?
Look up
Forgive
- Read John 17:13-23. What does Jesus pray for us?
- Satan is the accuser. He points out people’s sin. Rev. 12:10.
- If unity is Jesus’ goal for us, what is the enemy’s goal? Galatians 5:13-15.
- What disarms the enemy? Matt. 5:23-24, 6:13-14
- How do people usually deal with conflict?
- How have you dealt with conflicts in the church where people have hurt or disappointed you?
How do we deal with conflict in a godly way? Matt. 18:15-35
4 Steps from Resolving Everyday Conflict by Ken Sande & Kevin Johnson
- Glorify God. Ask “How can I please the Lord in this situation?”
- Get the Log Out of Your Own Eye. First, acknowledge your contribution to the conflict and what you did wrong (Matthew 7:5).
- Gently Restore. Approach the other person humbly, privately and gently to help them see what they did wrong. Do not go in anger to condemn or to hurt them back (Matthew 18:15-18, Galatians 6:1).
- Go and Be Reconciled. Give forgiveness, work on rebuilding the relationship and solving the problems together (Matt. 18:21-35).
Look Forward
- What are you doing well? What do you need to change?
- Set Goal: Will you make the 2nd discipleship commitment to work through conflicts and forgive when others in the discipleship group hurt or disappoint you?
- RESOURCE FOR GOING DEEPER: Read Resolving Everyday Conflict by Ken Sande and Kevin Johnson